Category: Epithalamia & Hymenaioi

Epithalamia are poems written for wedding celebrations. I’ve written a few over the years, so I figured I’d collect them into a category here.

  • Two&One

    (to Grace and Andrew
    on the day of their marriage)
    by Gord Sellar

    Oh, pregnant day

    birthing new world, one
    love-transformed: dawn now!

    Not sun and moon, you two;
    You have found the way to union
    Remember Orpheus? His Voyage?
    Never look back.
    Remember Isis? Her search?
    Accept him what he lacks, whatever.

    Not gods and goddesses
    but side by side live
    with mystery! This
    teeming world you rebuild.

    You are perhaps binary stars?
    hidden in the multitude,
    shimmering, inscrutable;
    defined and joined by
    spaces–you are two and one
    at once.

    Live together, wrapped in
    mystery, the highest blessing.

    — Saskatoon, 1998 (?)

  • Across (for Claire and Charlie )

    by Gord Sellar

    They speak in grave tones of the utter difference
    and I cannot blame them, the world they lived in
    where some gravity, some mass, makes all the difference:
    the rivulet of hydrogen and oxygen, bound firm
    as if by lovers’ arms, drawn down into the fibers,
    the sticking place of the pigment, the bonding of ink
    into paper, the paper you have handled when thinking
    of him. There is perhaps something utterly different.

    They seem to think the same of electrons, when
    they kick one another in the behind, shoved one by one
    in stream as if eager to tear through the copper and night
    across the rim of the planet, into her ear where you
    would whisper with air alone, with body’s breath
    if you could, but where this electronic dopplerganger
    speaks for you, into her body, as if the ends
    of disparate filaments can somehow approximate
    almost-touch. People have sanctioned this.

    But not so with photons. Not when words break down
    into stream of digits; as if there are too many filters,
    walls, barricades for anything to grow in this space.
    They picture the network as if it were no-man’s-land,
    and no-woman’s too. And I must admit, I know a little
    of that suspicion; I have seen the dry blooms, tasted
    windborne dust. But I know better than them, how you
    each always find a way through noise to signal, find
    a bloom of colors never before named, some desert
    beauty that nobody else has quite seen in the sands.


    This is not quite an epithalamion, since I’d gotten out of that business when they got married, but it is a poem for my friends Charlie and Claire, from around the time when they first fell in love.

  • epithalamion (for Marie and Troy)

    by Gord Sellar

    nobody else knew where to look, that love–
    everything–hides and moves as shadow, cool
    prayers; that beneath the surface, we are already
    one breath, unison covering the world on this day,
    and everything hinges on this, our promise, us.

  • Epithalamion (for Nick and 경주)

    Now the strange and blood-heavy lushness of spring
    is passing; the air, once thick-pollen’d, borne off
    by some breeze we all feel—and so let us have
    done with it, and bear down for the long, hot promise
    of summer that is settling into our bodies. This is
    the heart of the covenant, as you turn and look into
    her face, and you turn and look into his, and speak
    these words that mention, so briefly, the end of winter,
    the dark of the snow that covers the end of all promises,
    that makes us ache as we hear you say it, and yet—
    none who sees you standing together could doubt
    the wisdom of everything; not even the theodicy could
    swerve him; he who can read would see it on our faces
    who gather here to be in your sunlight, and feel
    for ourselves, the summer that is shining from you both.
    The world is the same, one season following the last,
    yet once more, somehow, has changed absolutely forever.

    – Gord Sellar, for a wedding on Saturday, May 22nd, 2004.

  • Hymenaios (for Isabella and Martin)

    We drank down our doubts, savoured the questions and accidents,
    and what’s left is an empty cup to be filled, today.
    Almost the first miracle in the world, making wine
    for a day like this. We know, in this world, our arms
    cannot reach forever; we remember Spanish-tinted dreams
    spanning whole jungles separating us, heavy nights spent
    dreaming one anothers’ voices and tongues—of a day
    like this. And we seal a pledge bounded by the inevitable,
    but look to the boundless; we would pledge it in every tongue
    in the world, if we could. But though we cannot, behold
    us anyway, dear friends. Today we become our love.


    Notes: Hymenaios is the name of the Greek god of marriage, as well as the traditional song of the bridesmaids, but in general it’s also a general-purpose term for a “wedding song”. (The poem I wrote for my other sister’s wedding, an epithalamion, is apparently one specific type of hymenaios which was traditionally sung accompanying the bridal couple to the bedchamber. According to what I can find online, anyway. The hymenaios is the more all-encompassing category… but I’m not wholly sure.)

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